12 July 2018
Do Soulmates Exist?
Is it too farfetched to believe soulmates exists? This question has been speculated over and over since the beginning of time. The thought-provoking idea that a soulmate exist continues to test the boundaries of friendships, relationships, and most importantly love. We go thru life with an expectation of following rules and guidelines policies and procedures, religion and faith. Life is easier to navigate when the rules are written in black and white, however; when there are theories such as soulmates we question its validity. Maybe I’m just a hopeless romantic but personally I believe soulmates do exist in more ways than one. You can’t look at it literally and think your soulmate will fall in your lap one day. Or one day you and a complete stranger cross paths, lock eyes and get married off into the sunset immediately. On second thought… anything is possible. Your soulmate is someone who was meant for you because destiny put two people on a path that intertwined and over time they consciously recognized their divine purpose.
Due to various translations, the word soulmate has been diluted. Therefore; it’s important to first understand its definition. One standard rendition of a “soulmate” is a romantic or platonic partner, with the implication of an exclusive lifelong bond. (Merriam-Webster Dictionary) According to Greek mythology, humans were originally created with four arms, four legs and a head with two faces. Fearing their power, Zeus split them into two separate parts, condemning them to spend their lives in search of their other halves — their twin souls. (Stevenson)
After researching other philosophies of a soulmate, I’ve come to understand how soulmates can be identified. There is also a numeric solution to determine your soul mate. It’s called the geometric mean. The geometric mean is useful for calculating romantic matches because it accounts for a wide range of topics, interests, and data points such as movies, politics, and religion (Mitchell). Similar to winning the lotto, the chances of winning the mega millions can be determined numerically. It’s no longer a secret, now your soulmate can be determined as well.
Soulmates could be considered a friend, a teacher, or lover. The most common soul type is the friend soulmate. (Adler) The feeling of a best friend is like no other. We can confide and bare or deepest secrets with them. Friend soulmates are bounded by similar likes and dislikes. The bond of a friend may occur instantly or gradually. Either way, you definitely know the bond is strong and is there to stay. There’s a reason for this feeling. We may not know how to explain it but, your soul will guide you through it.
A karmic soul is considered as one whose purpose is to instill a life lesson. Surprisingly an enemy be a karmic soul. Note: no matter how hard we try to make it work, karmic souls aren’t meant to be in your life forever. Their purpose is to help you grow, and become a better person. Every karmic soul offers a lesson. (Adler) That’s why you feel you have left the relationship with some message or understanding of what not to do next time — a lesson, and nothing more.
According to Buddhist teachings, you will know when you have encountered your twin soul. Your love soulmate is considered your twin. When you have met your twin soul you will feel calm and at peace. Love soul relationships are unlike any other. They are hard to walk away from and they are extremely passionate. A few signs you will experience once you met you twin soul are that you will meet unexpectedly and your bond will be stronger than ever. You two will experience psychic and intuitive senses. Giving gifts will come fluidly without anything in return. The deepest love and respect will come between the two of you, and you constantly are thinking about one another. (Aurelia)
Even with overwhelming documentation from various credible resources and religions dating back since the beginning of time; the concept of soulmates are not acknowledged. Maybe soulmates are just a fancy title to emphasize how your relationship came to be. Some psychologists state that believing that a soulmate exists specifically for a person is an unrealistic expectation. (; “Soul Mates Do Exist- Just not in the Way We Usually Think.”) Who’s right? Who’s wrong? Opposition is expected even when a theory has been proven. I believe those people have the right to believe whatever they want. However, I stand by my belief that soulmates do exist especially after what I’ve experienced.
Based on my personal experience I’ve experienced a friend soul, several karmic souls and have actually found my twin soul. As a child my family moved from city to city so often I never had that childhood best friend. It wasn’t until the 8th grade when I met my friend soul. We were thicker than thieves and we remain best friends to this day. We may live in different cities now but, our bond is as strong as day one. Shortly after my life became surrounded by Karmic souls. I moved out when I was a sophomore in high school and every since the universe had its job cut out for itself and sent me karmic souls continuously throughout my life. Thinking back on every relationship with a friend, family or boyfriend I recognized each lesson which was intended for me. At certain stages of my life people were brought to me and taught me something good, bad or otherwise. I remember and appreciate those gifts to this day.
My love soulmate was recently unveiled. We have known each other for 17 years. I met him on the job. Usually I never date on the job but this situation was different. At the time he had a girlfriend and a baby on the way and I was dating someone as well. Literally working side by side, cubicles facing each other eventually, we got to know one another little by little. I knew he had interest in me but he was very respectful of both our relationships. It wasn’t until we both ended our relationships that we started going to lunch together. Every day we would go to the park and embrace each other. We shared similar interest and disliked the same things. We were immersed in each other’s conversations and enjoyed a good laugh on a regular basis. Eventually we were faced with an issue that placed our relationship on pause for years to come. We’ve were off and on for 17 years. Actually more off than on. We’ve been in practically every situation including living together. Although we had our challenges and issues, throughout the struggle we realized something kept drawing us back together. This is how I know he is my soulmate. After all of our past experiences we finally know who we are, what we want and what’s expected to make this relationship finally work. Our bond is stronger now than ever. Our energy is overwhelming. We have finally become one. And we are engaged to get married. I have found my twin soul and I am truly at peace.
Soulmates are the epitome of love, and love is a natural human emotion. However; should we only love one person for the rest of our lives? Then explain, why do we love multiple people during our lives? I believe the soulmate theory is correct. These relationships help bridge the gap and filters out your true soulmate. You’ve got to experience it to understand it. For example; you wouldn’t believe me if I tried to tell you a ghost or rainbow was real unless you experienced or seen it yourself. Therefore; since we’ve all experienced a friend soul, karmic soul, or twin soul connection within our life, the theory must be true.